Permission to Feel
An interview with Marc Brackett - author of Permission to feel. Use this to get a sense for his book.
Podcast Quotes:
“the suppression, the repression, the denial. Again, it’s easier. The way I like to think about it is that emotion regulation is effortful. You have to want to regulate, you’ve got to be motivated to regulate, you gotta see that it’s going to help you have greater well-being, that it’s going to help you build better relationships, that it’s going to help you attain your goals, but most of us aren’t taught to think that way. So we think that just by suppressing or repressing, we can move on, and we all know that doesn’t happen. These emotions don’t go away, the suppression doesn’t mean it goes away, it means it gets buried in your belly, or in your heart or in your lower back.”
“Regulating does not mean not feeling, it doesn’t mean getting rid of the feeling. Like I’ve been telling people, as you would too, around the anxiety they’re experiencing, “You’re not going to not feel anxious, there’s a lot of uncertainty and unpredictability going on, but you don’t have to watch the news 10 hours a day, and being bombarded with crazy information that’s going to make you go nuts.” So, you can be with the feeling and not let the feeling have power over you, that’s the ultimate form of acceptance of that feeling.”
“The first step is permission to feel. Give yourself the permission to feel all these emotions. There’s no bad emotion. There’s no such thing as a bad feeling. Feelings are feelings, emotions are emotions. Allow yourself to experience them all.”
https://open.spotify.com/episode/79wgJBQT96MmhBf917FywH?si=z5Xdrw0iQR69sC0u-zbslA